Bullying

This is such an unhappy topic everywhere.  There are school policies, there are unspoken social rules, there are rules of etiquette.  Kids don't follow rules on the playground.  Regular kids know how to bend around the rules, to lie, to partially lie, to "cover their butt" and to think on their feet for basic strategies.  Bullying is not new, it isn't getting better & it isn't going away.  It comes out in lunch treasures being stolen, exclusion, mean pranks,  name calling and soon escalates to hitting.  Teachers can't monitor it all, kids know this, they run the school-ground.  If the school isn't policing the name calling fiercely, the other behaviours wash in, like the tide the ebb & flow through the day.  I think that is impossible for an auspie to grasp so much inconsistency.  AND autism is mostly an invisible disorder so those kids are punished harder with these every day social interactions.  You can teach a kid to lick their lunch in front of the other kids to get them to back off, or to clearly reply, "What will you trade me for it?"  Not so easy if things are already missing.  So after 2-3 weeks of this going on you report it to the teacher who has a talk with the class about stealing and fairness it gets better for while.  Why does it take 2-3 weeks to get on top of?  Life, and that delightful child gap memory that filters & processes differently doesn't tell you until he's really mad about it.  So the stealing resumes and occasionally a desirable lunch item is laced with soap or hot sauce before it goes to school, with a hope & a prayer that no on will go out of their way to accuse of poisoning their kid.  The ones that complain loudest are often the ones enjoying delivering the unfairness.  They are hopefully learning a lesson that they should not take what is not theirs, to ask before taking, and that other people have rights too.